Can We Be Friends?

The following is an actual Yahoo chat with FT:

Me: we need to talk
FT: why. what did i do wrong
Me: you didn't do anything wrong. i just did a lot of thinking last night. about my life and where i want it to go and what people i want to surround myself with
FT: its me being too rough, or because i do different stuff
Me: i need people in my life that encourage me and genuinely care about me. i think you are a nice guy, i just don't think this is going to work
FT: grrr. all right. if that is how u feel u do what u gotta do
Me: i appreciate that
FT: but i am putting u on the spot to find me a mate, who wont hurt me
Me: you want me to find you a girlfriend? i can't pick anyone for myself. i can't pick for anyone else
FT: gawd i think i will be depressed. we can still be friends?

I finally decided enough was enough. FT is never going to be the person I want him to be. And that's all my fault. You can't uncrazy someone no matter now much you want to. Especially if he doesn't think he's crazy. Although I think I might be crazy for allowing him to think for a second that we can be friends.

How do I get myself into these situations? Why can't I just say what I really feel? Maybe because it would be too mean. No man wants to hear "You are insane and you are making me insane. You cannot seem to grasp even the slightest bit of sanity to recognize that you are treating me badly. I am a person who deserves respect and courtesy. If you cannot manage to treat me at least as civilly as the gum on the bottom of your shoe then please leave me alone." I'm just guessing that might be a bit much for the ego. So now I'm stuck with the friend thing. Maybe. Who knows. Maybe he doesn't want to be friends. Maybe it's just his way of easing the blow. We will see.