Monday, December 8, 2008

Coffee Take 2


















Even though the last experience wasn't so good, I decided to give coffee another try. Another try with another guy from eHarm that is. I had been talking to him for a couple weeks online. We seemed to have some things in common so that's always nice. Then we talked on the phone last week and really seemed to hit it off. We were both astounded by how much we have in common. We had 4 great conversations and I found him extremely easy to talk to. Finally we decided to meet for coffee.

Here's the rundown.
  1. He arrived on time and spotted me right away. This means he's punctual and that my photos online are truly reflective of what I really look like.
  2. He paid for my drink and did it in a sweet way. Like it was no big deal. Which it shouldn't be.
  3. He stood close to me as we waited for his coffee. I'm going to interpret this as he was comfortable with me and not repulsed by me.
  4. We couldn't find a table inside and the place was really crowded so we sat outside. It was only 45 degrees out and I was freezing.
  5. We spent the next hour talking easily about a variety of topics. We seem to have similar conversation styles because we flew off on tangents and couldn't remember what we were originally talking about. He was engaging and didn't force me to do all the talking and didn't monopolize the conversation either.
  6. When we were so cold we were turning blue, we decided to part ways. He asked if I would be interested in getting dinner some time. I said I would love to and we started walking in the direction of the parking lot.
  7. He gave me a nice hug and we said goodbye.
OK. Sounds like a nice time, right? And it was. But I haven't heard from him yet. Am I going to? I thought the dinner invitation was the signal that he was actually interested. Or did I read that wrong? Was he just being polite? Should I contact him and thank him for the coffee? Or do I wait for him to contact me? I'm so bad at this!

11 comments:

Amber said...

Wow! That sounded SO successful!! I totally think he meant what he said about calling you later for dinner. I say if you haven't heard from him in 2 days, write him and thank him for the coffee. Then the ball is in his court. Just try to be patient!!

Angi said...

I agree with Amber! ^^

Amber said...

Angi...I don't know who you are, but you are one smart cookie! :-)

16 paws said...

I don't know. Is it too late to thank him for coffee 2 days after the fact? I mean, does that just seem like you are reaching for a response from him?

I'd say a thank you right away is better than waiting just so it doesn't appear that you are trying to get him to call you by contacting him.

Does that make sense? I don't know how to do this stuff either, perhaps I am over thinking it, in fact, I am sure I am.

A fair fairy said...

yeah 2 or 3 day rule... a lot of guys do follow it... so no panic... wait quietly until wednesday or thursday... he probably will call you one of those days night to see if you are available friday night (which is safe) or saturday night (which would be a little more involved for a second date).

Gabrielle said...

Count me in! I totally agree with Amber. It sounds like he will be calling for that dinner, if not a quick note is a great way to let him know you are still interested...a little nudge.

kev said...

First of all, congrats. It sounds like the date went really well.

How long ago was the date? Unless it was FOREVER ago, I would be patient and not worry. Guys might say they will call you even if they have no intention of doing so (to be "polite"), but we don't tend to bring up "dinner" when parting ways unless we mean it.

No need to contact him -- he'll contact you. Just wait him out.

Gabrielle said...

Nice to hear from a MAN!

Sarah said...

Thanks so much for all the support! I'm really impatient and this waiting thing drives me crazy.

Kev: So nice to have a man's perspective. Thank you! It's only been 48 hours so maybe I should wait a little longer? I really shouldn't contact him? AAAAHHHH! The waiting is maddening!

A True Heart Girl in Jersey said...

I once had a first date with a guy who at the end of the night did the following: kissed me, said he felt fireworks in my kiss, asked me if I was free the next Friday, and would I go out with him again? I said absolutely. We emailed a few times during the week, that Friday came and nothing. And nothing from him ever again. Not even "thanks but no thanks." So now, I don't believe anything until it actually happens. What one person SAYS means nothing until they actually do it. Jaded? Perhaps. At 39, I'm calling it realistic.

Sarah said...

True Heart: I love it! Realistic is a great way to be. No more waiting around and agonizing. No more disappointment. I think you just gave me my New Year's resolution. THANKS!