First let me say that I have no problem dating men with children. I like kids and hope to have them some day. A man that takes care of his kids and loves them is incredibly attractive to me.
This is not one of those stories.
Let me back up a bit. I am getting used to talking to multiple guys at one time, thanks to eHarm. They are all at different levels in my mind. For the past week I've been exchanging lengthy emails with eDad. His responses are always witty and insightful and they make me laugh. I looked forward to reading every one. And my responses back were long and personal and I felt comfortable sharing things with him. Yesterday he asked if I wanted to meet. I declined. I told him the truth. All of it. I told him that I really prefer talking to someone on the phone at least once before a meeting takes place. #1 it's good to see if the good email conversation can translate to good phone conversation and if he's got a strange or high voice I really don't like to be surprised by that on a first date. He agreed and said he'd call me that night.
And he did.
And I'm so glad I insisted on a phone call.
His voice was OK. It was a little strange, but I couldn't figure out what made it strange. It wasn't high pitched. It wasn't too deep. It just had a different quality to it. I can't explain it.
His voice ended up being the best part of the call.
We had previously agreed to keep the first conversation short at about 15 - 20 minutes. That didn't happen. He talked and talked and talked and didn't let me get a word in and talked and talked for an hour. And what did he talk about the majority of the time? His cats. I now know everything and more about his 2 cats. I know that the boy cat likes to sit in the shower and just stare at the wall. I know that the cats aren't allowed to sleep with him anymore because they make too much noise and don't let him sleep. I know that the girl cat hates his mom and hides on top of the fridge when she comes to visit. I know that his house smells like cats (why would a man actually admit this because, ew gross!). I had already told him that I'm not really a cat person, but he didn't seem to mind that. Finally after an hour and 15 minutes, I was desperate. I didn't want to hurt his feelings because he really is a nice guy, but I just couldn't take any more. He was launching into what I feared would be a decade long lecture on everything pokemon and I couldn't take it. So I used my home phone and called my friend and hung up twice, hoping she'd get the hint and call me. She did and now I felt I could interrupt him and get him off the phone. He said he had a really great time talking with me (I think "at me" is more accurate) and he would call tomorrow.
I hope he doesn't. I'd rather he just forget I exist, but I think I'm going to have to be honest with him and tell him that I don't see this going anywhere. Can I do this over email? Please say yes. I don't think I can listen to him drone on about the cats for another hour. I'm sure they did all kinds of cute things today. I just don't care.
Oh and he doesn't have any children. He calls himself "Daddy" when he's talking to the cats.
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I'm really sorry, but this post made me laugh so hard...I love cats as much as the next person, and I have two myself, but I don't think I could listen to someone rant and rave about their cats for that long and not get extremely annoyed. But...the "daddy" thing just topped it off. What a weirdo. LOL (Oh, and yes, in this case I think since you've only talked on the phone once, it's perfectly acceptable to "break up" over e-mail.) ;-)
NEXT!
Email him, if you call one of his cats might answer and then who knows how long you'd have to talk to the cat before you can talk to him all just to tell him thanks but no thanks.
I can't believe he was a crazy cat man! I've heard of crazy cat women, but men?
I say break it off via email, but be totally honest with him. Tell him that he didn't let you get a word in edge wise, so that way he will be more aware of it when he talks to his next possibility.
Your litter box or Mine??? LMFAO! Cut him & do it fast. Maybe if you meow it he would understand....oooh soooo cold!
OMG!!! yesyesyes HE IS THE CRAZY CAT LADY!!! argh I am soooo sorry but gosh you did sooo good insisting on the phone call!! imagine how excruciating it would have been to meet him in person! (which I unfortunately tried for you once - and confirm: it IS excruciating, and I HAD to go to the bathroom and call one of my friends so that he could call me back 2 minutes later and pretend I was urgently needed elsewhere HAHAH - no I know it's bad).
urgh - well, it's with bad dates (or almost dates) that you learn to detect the good ones! as 16 paws said: next!
oh and yes: you can cancel over email - of course, you don't owe him anything... not even honesty, but still you can tell him if you want that you are not so much into cats... you don't have to though - your call.
HA HA HA! Oh my gosh, I was laughing out loud reading this! I'm a cat person but even I wouldn't want to hear about a guy's cats for an hour and a half! Hopefully you'll never hear from him again, but if you do, you can definitely break it off over e-mail. Good lord, if you were to try to do it over the phone he would probably just talk over you!
LMAO!!! I probably look like a total idiot, sitting here by myself, laughing so hard with no one else in the room. Thank you all for the great laughs. I couldn't even add to it if I wanted to! So, so funny!
Wow...
One, this was very entertaining.
Two, this guy makes me ashamed to be a cat person (AND a guy).
Three, you have the patience of a saint to listen to 75 minutes of his craziness on the phone.
Four, you most definitely can end it with this guy via e-mail. No phone call necessary. In fact, I'd just end it with him via Craigslist. Post an ad where you "break up" with him. Assume he'll see it.
Easy peazy lemon squeezy.
Craigslist!! Ha! I love it!!!
You guys are hilarious! I can't tell you how glad I am that I forced him to have a phone conversation before we met. I just don't think I could sit there looking at the pictures of his babies that I'm sure he has in his wallet and not snort out loud laughing at him. Dodged a bullet this time. Why are the strange ones attracted to me?
I'm planning on meeting someone from eHarmony in a few days...but I haven't talked to him on the phone at all. I think we're just going to set up a place to meet through email. Maybe I should talk to him first....after reading this I'm all paranoid now lol.
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