When we were at our "lunch and nothing else" we had talked about going to see a movie the following Saturday. He said he'd call me and we would set up the plans.
I didn't really think he would call. And he didn't. That Friday, he sent me a text message. Hiya. That's it. Really? Don't strain yourself buddy. I responded back casually and it didn't go much further. There was no mention of getting together by either of us. Perhaps we are just 2 nice people who aren't interested in each other and yet don't want to be the bad guy and actually come out and say it. Or we're just lazy.
Oh well. On to the next.
I re-upped with eHarm for another 3 months. If nothing else, it's some entertainment for me. It gives me something to write about, something to look forward to, something to occupy my mind.
11 comments:
This guy sounds like he has no backbone. Either, like you said, he isn't interested but wanted to be a nice guy by texting you, or he texted you in the hopes YOU would bring up going out that weekend. Either way, nice backbone, buddy.
Good idea to move on. The right one is out there somewhere!
yea! you did the right thing ^^ go find Mr Right! :D
"HIYA"???
How ya doin there, ole buddy ole pal? You know, besides WASTING MY TIME.
Next!
Maybe that guy was really shy and was not sure you really wanted to go on a second date?
I may be playing devil's advocate a little too much here, but I find the man's position in today's society really difficult and puzzling to play... He has to guess the woman's intention and be a gentleman while leaving her enough room to be her equal...
I don't know... but again, I am a bad tomboy. I probably would have mentioned the Sunday date, even if only to say 'so what? you don't want to go on that date on Sunday anymore?' after all, if I was not gonna see that guy anymore, I would have not had anything to lose.
What kind of man you want? assertive? Confident? Mature?
Or sensitive, poetic, gentle? Not saying those are completely contradictory but...
1. I'm an idiot I left you a comment meant for someone else! Mea culpa! 2. I would have written back to this guy: "Hi. And I'm fine since that'll be your next question. Next?"
urgh I'm sorry I should be more supportive... You know I am totally confident the guy who is right for you is out there, not far. I also think there is no regret to have about that specific date.
"Hiya" may be cute in person, or as a text from an already-established friend, but from a potential date...uhhhhhh no. Too lame for words. And...somehow, not very grown up.
Kev: I just couldn't muster up the enthusiasm to care either way with this guy.
Shu Fen: I'm trying! I promise!
LiLu: Exactly! WASTING MY TIME. Stop it. NEXT!
LOE: Totally agree. Men are in an unenviable position. I think I've just been conditioned (by previous men) to assume that men won't call and if they do, they still aren't interested. I'm sure it's more my issue than his. And I want a man who is assertive, confident, mature and sensitive. Does such a creature exist?
True Heart: 1. Ain't no thang. 2. Seriously! If you're not interested in talking to me, don't bother with this text crap.
LOE: You are supportive! I need to see these things from other sides. I value your opinions!!
Angi: Too lame indeed. It might even have been ok if it was the day after the date, but not a week late. I'm deleting that number from my phone!
Hi ya,
I just read an article on Uncyclopedia about How-to Become Stupid in 21 Days. If men actually follow this plan of action we're ALL doomed.
There won't be enough smart women left for civilization to survive.
You did the right thing. Who wants "nothing else"?
blessings,
julia
julia ward - a BLINDING heart - a writer's blog - www.ablindingheart.com
Pffttt.. "hiya" my arse.. I honestly give you credit for putting yourself out there in this whole crazy dating life. I got lucky and fell in with "the man" after my divorce. Otherwise, I'd just be the crazy animal lady..lol
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