A couple weeks ago I canceled my eHarm subscription. I was no longer having even potentially meaningful interactions with men and decided it was time for a break. I haven't sworn it off completely, but I'm weary about the whole thing and don't have the sparkle about it that I once had.
That's how I felt 2 weeks ago.
Then I went to my cousin's wedding in Long Beach and heard the sweet story about how he met his new wife on eHarmony. And she was just about to cancel her subscription when my cousin "nudged" her. They met, hit it off, sparks flew, and the rest is history.
As soon as they walked back up the aisle, I was ready to rejoin. I don't want to be alone. I really do want someone to share my life with. And I always thought of eHarm as the last effort. Like when all else fails, go to them and they will find your man.
But I haven't rejoined yet.
My life feels like it's in upheaval. And I know that's not a good time for me to try to be interesting, pretty, fun, entertaining and seductive.
Maybe in another month or two I'll start up again.
I'm not ready to give up. But can God please hurry up and send me the man of my dreams? I'm not getting any younger here.
7 comments:
Dear little chica --- your perfect man will show his beautiful head in time, lets hope he has teeth & the most fabulous set of dimples ever seen by the human eye. Don't feel so lovelorn...your time to shine in love will come soon enough. Enjoy your "singledom", you may miss it when it's gone.
i hear ya chicka. i'm saying the same prayer!
I think we both know I have nothing positive to throw in here, but I'm crossing my fingers for both of us....
I realize this is very much a "do as I say not as I do" situation, but try not to get discouraged! (As you know from my recent blog post, I'm currently enduring the single's blues, too -- thank you for your comment, btw!)
It's cliche, but I've always found this to be true: When you stop looking, what you were looking for inevitably finds you. Any relationship I've had in my life happened when I wasn't looking for a relationship. It's funny how that works.
So, in short, do what I'm trying to do. Get ready. Miss Right is out there, and someday I'll bump into her. My job right now is to prepare myself. I'm consciously trying to improve every area of my life I deem worthy of improving. I'm doing this mostly for me, but also for "her" -- whomever she is.
It doesn't make being single any easier, but my life's more fulfilling when I'm striving towards something.
Ditto what Kev said. And I think if eharm is your dating site of choice, good for you. You know my thoughts on it. And I still say, if you're going to do a paid site, also consider one of the free sites. Your mileage may vary due to location, but I have met the same quality of man on a paid site versus a free site. They all leave a little something to be desired! So why not get as many fish to choose from as your net can hold? That's my theory and I'm sticking to it sister! Just know I'm cheering you on no matter what!
Never give up. Take breaks, change strategies, take it slow, take it fast, relax or get angry, but NEVER GIVE UP!
Paid websites, free websites, no dating websites (I met J on myspace, I already mentioned that), libraries, gym, coffee shops what-have-ya, but don't give up! If you want to share your life with a man, you will. Easy as that, period.
I know how you feel...it feels hopeless but we can't give up. What else is there if we give up? (I'm preaching to myself too obviously lol) Right now I'm focusing my efforts on training for a 5K, but I did join Eharm too recently. So far I haven't seen anyone that perks my interest, but I did just join. So I guess I gotta give it some time.
Maybe along the way I'll meet someone. It sucks being lonely!!
Keep us posted!!
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