I'm Stuck in a Cycle

I'm not exactly sure how I got here.

For the past several weeks I've been talking to a new guy from eHarm. He seems nice, genuine, compassionate and although he does live with his mother (I still don't know how I feel about that one) I am somewhat intrigued by him. Somehow, and I don't quite know how it happened, we have only been communicating through chats and texts. I can't remember how it started. Typically when I give someone my number, I like to hear their voice fairly soon because we all know what a kiss of death a weird voice can be. It's also a useful tool in weeding out the Cat Daddy's of the world.

But somehow I'm stuck in this never-ending loop of texts. "Good Morning" "How's your day going" "What are you doing?" "What did you have for dinner?" "Are you still awake?" How many times do I have to answer the same questions? This shouldn't feel like work. And maybe if we weren't in this cycle of LOLs and :) we might have something more meaningful to talk about. Instead we are limited to a handful of words that mean nothing to me and that I can't muster the enthusiasm to care about.

I should stop this train and just call him. Or do that sweet and endearing thing where I manipulate him into calling and at the same time get him to think that he was the one who originated the idea. (Yes men are capable of generating the idea to pick up the phone, but I might have a little influence in the timing on occasion).

I think about calling. I think about how we can stop the idle chit chat. And yet I don't call. I wrap myself in a warm cocoon of reality TV and put my phone on silent.

Hmm. Maybe I don't want to talk to him. I shouldn't be this apathetic about someone this soon.

Do I hang in there and see if I can care a little more about this, or do I cut it off now and put all my focus back on my shows?

Mama's Boys?

I've just noticed an alarming detail on my journey with eHarm which both concerns and perplexes me. Although I've met many men on this site, I've only met about 8 in person. Of those 8, 4 admitted to living with one or both of their parents? That's half! Am I out of touch with the world these days? Is it too much to ask that a single man in his 30's have his own residence? I'm not suggesting that a man has to own an opulent mansion with a pool and a gardener, but a 1 bedroom apartment would be nice.

I know what you're thinking. "But maybe there are other circumstances. Maybe he's taking care of his sick Mother, or maybe he lost his job."

Yeah you've succeeded in making me feel guilty because who has the right to judge someone's living situation while they are taking care of their ailing parent? But really, if he's taking care of his Mom, does he have time to meet new people and start a relationship? And if he lost his job, shouldn't he be out looking for another job and not trolling the Internet for chicks? Plus he should probably save the monthly fee and use it to buy food.

So my question is, do I remain understanding and give them the benefit of the doubt? Do I try to understand their situation and wait to judge them? Or do I realize that something in my profile is now attracting homeless men? Maybe I should stop advertising the fact that I have an extra bedroom.